School shootings and Trauma:

In a front page article entitled “School Shootings Leave a Long Trail of Trauma” the New York Times (Front Page: March 29, 2019) explores the lingering trauma to survivors of school shootings.

On April 6, 2019, the Editor of the New York Times printed the following letter that I wrote in response to the article.:

As a Marriage Family therapist who has treated trauma survivors and as a survivor of a mass shooting myself, I think we miss an important factor in helping the survivors of school shootings.  How can they heal when they do not feel protected by those in charge of their country? 

In May 1945, when I was seven years old, my mother and I were on the Dam Square in Amsterdam celebrating the liberation of our city, when German soldiers opened fire and more than 30 people were shot to death.  I was able to heal from the trauma, in part, because the Allies arrived and took charge.  But in 2017 television images showing torch-bearing neo-Nazis with swastikas in Charlottesville, VA., triggered old fears. Memories resurfaced of gunshots, of running for safety as people screamed and fell bleeding to the ground, and suddenly I wanted the presence of the Allies who conquered the Nazis and made a 7-year-old Dutch school child feel safe again. 

Who are the Allies for America’s children today?  Where are the liberators who will remove the guns and make today’s American schoolchildren feel safe?

Hendrika de Vries

Announcing the publication of my book:

I am excited to announce that the book about my childhood in Nazi-occupied Amsterdam during WWII was published by SheWritesPress in August of 2019.

The story in this book has been gnawing at me for decades, but for a long time I hesitated putting it out into the world.  Writing about my childhood always felt somewhat self-indulgent.   I have lived a long and richly-textured life, where so many others suffered unspeakable torture and did not survive the brutality of those years. However, when I began to see torch-bearing neo Nazis displaying swastikas on my television screen this year and again saw women’s stories of abuse being dismissed, I realized that those of us who survived tyranny and oppression in any form have an obligation to tell our stories.

The title of my book is: When a Toy Dog Became a Wolf and the Moon Broke Curfew…

 The images in my title spring from true events described in the memoir. Born in  a time of tyranny and violent bigotry, when traditional gender roles expected women to be domestic and obedient as a toy dog and gently reflective as the feminine moon,  I was given a great gift. I would witness the fierce power of female disobedience and the mystery of the light that could pierce the darkness of oppression and light a path for a little girl to discover the woman she could one day  become.